Always be YOU!
Monday, July 07, 2014 5:48 AM
The people in your life won't always support your decisions. So you need to remember that life is not about justifying yourself, but rather creating yourself.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can't decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires. Don't be scared to walk alone and pave your own path when you know it's the right thing to do.
People will inevitably judge you at some point. But you can decide, respectfully, not to care for those who pass judgment on something you strongly believe in or something that makes you who you are. Just because you affected their life, doesn't mean you have to the let them affect yours.
When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless worrying and suffering. Some people may tell you it's best to stand up for yourself and fight back, but the best offense is always a good defense. Defend yourself from others by not taking the things they say and do personally because if you do, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you.
You should never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. There's no reason to be ashamed for feeling something or acting out on it if it's real to you. It's a sign that you have a big heart, and that you aren't afraid to let others know it. Showing your emotions is a sign of human strength. The people who judge you for being human, and not being modest, are the ones who need to apologize.
Where's your will to be weird? Where's your resolution to be real? It's not weird to be weird. Everybody is weird in some way. You must celebrate your individuality and not be embarrassed of it. If you're lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don't be ashamed and don't hide it.
We are never more alive than when we are being brave and we can't be brave unless we are willing to take off our masks and be ourselves. It's about finding the courage to be real. When perfectionism of any kind is driving us, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is the backseat driver. Don't do this to yourself. Let go of trying to be "perfect" in the eyes of others and just be who you are.
Don't be afraid to fail. Failure is the opportunity to begin again, smarter than before. Forget what others have told you. Fail often, fail fast, learn from it, move on and then repeat. Just because things didn't work out for you today, doesn't mean there's not something big in store for you tomorrow. Rest easy and get ready. Don't waste your energy justifying yourself to the cynics.
Don't compare your progress in life with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance. Great things in life don't happen when society tells you they're supposed to happen. They happen when they're meant to be. So remember, you don't have to make excuses about why you aren't married with children, or working a traditional 8-to-5 job, or making a certain amount of money. Our lives are not meant to be scripted the same exact way as others.
I don't entirely approve of some of the things I have done in my life, but I have no regrets because I am me. I would not be me if I hadn't learned along the way. The same is true for you.
All wise old people were once young and foolish. That's how they became wise. Don't be ashamed of who you had to be to get to where you are today.
You don't need a standing ovation or a bestseller or a promotion or a million bucks. You are enough right now. You have nothing to justify. Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself. You will have less heartaches and disappointments the minute you stop seeking the justification from others, only YOU can give yourself.
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