Remove bad habits to prevent emotional weakness
Monday, June 23, 2014 4:37 AM
You have been through some extremely tough times. Each of those experiences have helped you progress with your strength and wisdom. But still, you struggle with emotional weakness. You know what you need to do for yourself, but do you know what NOT to do?
I am writing about this topic because most of my time is spent on tips for implementing positive habits in your life, but I haven't really focused on removing any bad habits. Since we all struggle with emotional weakness at times, I thought I would share some behaviors you should avoid in order to help you keep progressing.
First, don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself. Don't sit around feeling sorry about your circumstances or how others have treated you. Instead, take responsibility for your role in life, work on changing what can be changed and keep in mind that life isn't always easy or fair. In the end, happiness is not the absence of problems, but simply the ability to deal well with them. So look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it's not what the world takes away from you that counts, it's what you do with what you have left.
Don't make the same exact mistakes over and over again. You can't make the same mistake twice. Because the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice. Accept responsibility for your behavior and learn from your past mistakes. Don't keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. Instead, grow and move on to better decisions and new lessons.
Don't envy and resent other people's success. Appreciate and celebrate other people's accomplishments. Don't grow envious or feel cheated when others achieve something you are trying to achieve. Instead, recognize that success comes with hard work, and be willing to work hard for your own chance at success. True confidence has no room for envy and resentment. When you know you are great, you have no reason to hate.
Don't let negativity and drama get the best of you. Think of your brain as a radio transmitter. It broadcasts thoughts, directions and vibrations into your life. Every day you get to choose the station it's tuned into to. Learn to tune out negativity to make room for positivity. Walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives and soon the negatives will become static.
Don't worry about pleasing everyone. You don't need to please everyone all the time. Don't be afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. Strive to be compassionate and fair, but be willing to handle other people being disappointed if you didn't perfectly live up to their unfair expectations. The bottom line is, pleasing everyone is impossible. Sometimes the bridges you burn end up lighting your way.
Don't expect everything to be easy. Don't view failures and delays as reasons to give up. Instead, use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. Be willing to keep trying until you get it right. Whether you are working on improving your health or getting a new business off the ground, don't expect immediate results. Instead, apply your efforts and skills to the best of your ability and understand that real change takes time.
Don't resist change. Welcome positive change into your life and be willing to be flexible. Understand that change is inevitable and believe in your abilities to adapt. Change happens for a reason. Roll with it! It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
Don't hang on every word other people say about you. Listen to your own heart and intuition, not the peanut gallery. Try not to take things other people say about you too personally. What they think and say is a reflection of them, not you. Ultimately, you can't change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.
Don't think everyone is out to get you. Choose to see the good in others. Because the truth is, the world is full of good people. Whoever says otherwise hasn't looked around. So look around. Appreciate them. Connect and smile together. When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.
Happiness is a mindset of appreciation. It doesn't start when "this, that or the other thing" is resolved. Happiness is what happens NOW when you appreciate what you have. Remember, it only takes one idea, one second in time, one relationship, one dream, one leap of faith, to change everything, forever. So hang in there. And keep exercising your emotional strength.
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