Sonya Hemrich with her fiance, Steve Meyerhofer. The couple are getting married May 22, 2010.
Sonya Hemrich with her fiance, Steve Meyerhofer. The couple are getting married May 22, 2010.
When a girl is in a committed relationship and she is sure he is "the one," all she can focus on is getting the ring, but once you have gotten the bling, well, that is only the beginning of everything - and I don't mean just the rest of your lives together.

It is the beginning of the planning - the calling, the scheduling, the appointments, the shopping, and the spending - all for your big day.

My fiancé and I got engaged last August and soon after, set our wedding date for May 22, this spring.

I am generally not a very organized person and the thought of planning a wedding in nine months seemed extremely daunting - in fact it is still daunting. Just the other night I woke up at 1 a.m. and couldn't get back to sleep for over an hour because I was going over and over in my head everything I have to do in the next few months. To help with the organization of our impending nuptials, I did what a lot of girls do; I bought a wedding planner book. This is a smart thing to do and I highly recommend it - especially to the organizationally challenged, like me.

So the past few months have been spent working through my planner checklists. I am actually quite proud of myself because all of the major items, such as the ceremony location, reception location, photographer, DJ, caterer, flowers, decorations, the invitations, and "the dress," have been taken care of.

Just last weekend we scratched another "big item" off our wedding planning list - the cake. Now, I was a little excited for this aspect of planning, maybe even possibly more than the day I purchased my dress. I know, gasp! I love cake designs, which was spawned by watching "Ace of Cakes" on Food Network. Thanks to this show I had my little heart set on using fondant on my cake.

Fondant is a creamy confection that is used as filling or coating for cakes, and it is rolled out and then draped and formed over the cakes. It can also be dyed to any desired color. Bakers on the Food Network show use it to cover most all of their cakes - giving them a very smooth, almost polished look, so that is the background on my fondant fetish.

I found a design for a cake that I just fell in love with and my fiancé was pretty fond(ant) of it, too. But when we met with the cake designer at the bakery we selected, he said that the design would look just as nice frosted in butter cream icing and it would save us quite a bit of money. I also couldn't believe it when the designer said he himself doesn't like to eat fondant and that he just peels it off. So, in the end, the design of the cake I wanted overcame my so-called obsession with fondant.

The moral of this story is for brides to be flexible. You may think you know what you want, but in the long run, you may be better off going a different route.

I am extremely excited because now that we have selected a design, we get to sample three different combinations of cake. We decided not to go with the traditional flavors of chocolate, vanilla, and marble, but to go for something a little different. We are sampling dropped raspberry, amaretto, and chocolate and coconut flavored kinds of cakes. That is still in the future, so the jury is still out on what flavors we will pick, but that is part of the fun yet to come.

The next big thing to tackle will be the invitations. I actually will be making them myself - OK, with the help of a creative friend - with some paper I bought on sale at an area fabric store. It actually comes in handy when you work at a newspaper when it comes to printing costs. I have an "in."

I don't really know exactly what I am doing yet as far as the overall design, but I am counting on the expertise of my scrapbooking friend to help me make something cute and unique.

Our colors are a cream/ivory and lavender purple. I love the color purple and I purposely chose a more spring-like hue. So far I have had no problems when it comes to finding matching colors, but there is still time to come upon a snag when it comes to all of the last-minute details.

Another large part in planning a wedding that is time consuming and needs advance planning is if one decides to get married in a church. Many denominations have certain steps a couple must go through before they can walk down the aisle. We have decided to get married in a Catholic church and getting prepared within the church has been a large aspect of our lives these past few months.

So, do I appear to have everything under control for an organizationally challenged person? I hope so, but the true test will be in those last few days before the big date of May 22. We will see what happens!

Oh, better not forget the marriage license, surely that is the most important part because all of the planning would be for naught without that simple piece of paper!

Wish me luck!